It’s not going to be the answer to all the issues, but it will help.
Welcome to the CBT Worry Tree. Yes, it’s basic, but it’s a start – if you remember to apply it every time you find yourself relentlessly ruminating when you’re meant to be sleeping. Sleep is precious – and lack of it exacerbates anxiety.
For more CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) tips, have a gander at this. Or, better still, consider setting up an appointment with a therapist… Because it’s that easy to find the time and money to go to a therapist when you’re a parent in this country…
August 2015. I’d just suffered a horrific miscarriage (a story for another day, perhaps), which went on for over a week (because Ireland, #repealthe8th) and was sobbing uncontrollably in the GP’s office. Too many horrific life events had taken their toll, and I was mid-breakdown.
She said, “I can put you on these, but you also need to go talk to someone. ” I said “Can I go public, we’re really, really strapped for cash.” She responded “Unfortunately there is no such thing as ‘going public’ when it comes to therapy in Ireland. It’s all private. I can send you to Cluain Mhuire (‘a community based adult mental health service serving a population of over 175,000 in the Dublin South East area’) and see what they recommend? It’s public, so bear that in mind when you go to see them.”
I’m glad she warned me. Again, a tale for another day, perhaps.
As luck would have it, there was a psych nurse who was training to be a CBT therapist. I agreed to be her case study, and therefore received the sessions for free, in Burton Hall, one of Cluain Mhuire’s centres in Sandyford, Dublin. Going in and out of there every week was an experience in itself, but a necessary evil – for want of a better term. Again; fodder for another blog post. She gave me the CBT skills that helped me cope throughout my second pregnancy, tools for life.
In short, if it wasn’t for that one trainee nurse, I would not have seen a therapist.They aren’t psychologists in Cluain Mhuire, they’re psychiatrists, so medication is the usual port of call, and meds aren’t always the answer, especially in the short term.
There is nothing more important than your mental health, but we simply couldn’t afford 50 – 70 a session at the time. This country, which has a MASSIVE mental health issue, has absolutely no government subsidised therapy scheme.
Something needs to change. In the meantime, we’ll just have to keep talking to each other.